The 2020 Shake Up

I am listening.  I hear you.  I feel you.  

What other year has pushed you into great discomfort?

I continue to hear from clients and friends; “The unknown is making me crazy” or “I hate feeling so controlled”, “I am SO tired of this”.

2020 for myself was a year of many things; mostly, it was one that guided me to see with greater awareness.

A year where we were forced to see, to feel, and to own so much of the things we didn’t before simply because we lived our lives distracted, busy; ignoring, avoiding, and suppressing (consciously or not).

2020 gave us a shake as did the beginning of 2021. It is a time for awakening!  

It’s time for new perspectives, for growth and to finally deal with things you were pushing away - time to heal!

We have and continue to be tested against the cultural conditions and ancestral patterns planted in our subconscious and planted in our belief systems versus truly being ourselves, whole and authentic.

Our value of self is measured by what is outside of us.  Feeling we have to look a certain way, behave a certain way, be popular, have certain things, be happy, be accepted, having to know everything about our futures.  Where is the suffering?  In control and fear.   Our physical, mental, and spiritual bodies are exhausted, fatigued, depressed, and anxious.

Patterns repeating themselves, as we adult. More so when we become parents.

Relationships, any and all, are challenging us, especially now;  all rooted in our past experiences, insecurities, and inner child wounds.

We adult/parent primarily from fear of making mistakes, fear of vulnerability, fear to trust, fear of reliving moments or feelings from our childhood, fear that our children may make the same mistakes we did or just make mistakes that may…oh my…disappoint or embarrass us.  

Will you stop loving them if they make mistakes?
Will you stop loving them if they choose something different than what you had planned for them?
Will you stop loving them if they have thoughts and opinions that are drastically different than yours?
Do you overcompensate or overprotect them from life because you remember what it feels to/be/ _____?

We live separated from being, separated from presence which above all separates us from love.

We live with the past haunting us or completely suppressed.

We live seeking rather than being.

Reflection of 2020:

The virus has challenged fears of becoming ill; even of death, our loved ones, or even our own.

Anything can happen, anytime to anyone we love.  Do we live with the reality of this possibility more often than not?

Lesson:   Live present.

Being forced into lockdown teaches us to reflect on who and how WE ourselves are locking down.  

What are you forcing yourself to do or not do?  

What relationships are you being forced to have or stay in if they genuinely do not bring you joy or safety?

Lesson:  Honour thy self.

Cycles between lifts and restrictions.  Why not choose responsible because we do think of each other and we want to help each other?

What does being angry, frustrated, or judgmental towards each other do for us or our vision of / commitment to humanity?  

Use our voices for positive change, not to attack each other, the model this in your homes.

Lesson:  Remember empathy.

Living present.

Honouring you.

Remembering empathy.
 

What do you want more of, what would you invite in for 2021?

I challenge you to go a little deeper into a reflection of what 2020 brought for you to heal.

Think of all the discomfort, doubt, challenges, and truths that you had to face and deal with this year.

We have to feel it to heal it!

Now, let’s get to work. 

You are so worth it!

Sat Nam Friends

Sabrina